Eight Myths About Solo Feminine Journey Debunked

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Up to date: 8/26/2018 | August 26th, 2018

Kristin Addis from Be My Journey Muse writes our common column on solo feminine journey. It’s an essential subject I can’t adequately cowl, so I introduced in an knowledgeable to share her recommendation for different girls vacationers to assist cowl the subjects essential and particular to them! She’s superb and knowledgable. This month, we’re beginning the 12 months off with a number of the frequent myths folks have about solo feminine journey!

Your companion thinks it will be egocentric of you to journey with out him/her. Your dad and mom are apprehensive in your security. Your pals need to go together with you however they’re all busy engaged on their careers. The mainstream media tells you the world is a scary place for girls. The little voice in your head whispers worries about loneliness to you. Does any of this sound acquainted?

Similar to you, I had a whole lot of misconceptions about touring alone earlier than I went abroad. I assumed it may be harmful, lonely, an excessive amount of work, or make folks suppose that I didn’t have any associates.

Plus, who desires to see all these superb locations utterly alone? It gave the impression of a non-option, at the least at first.

Then I noticed no person had the time to go together with me, and I couldn’t wait any longer. I simply needed to go, or else I’d by no means go.

So I went alone and came upon that every one of my assumptions about touring solo had been lifeless mistaken. I wasn’t lonely, I didn’t find yourself kidnapped, and, in a whole lot of methods, it was really method higher to journey on my own. The liberty it afforded me, the best way it grew my confidence, and all the new associates I made had been enormous advantages that wouldn’t have occurred it I went with a gaggle of associates.

So for everybody who thinks that solo journey is lonely, harmful, or boring, I’m right here to debunk just a few frequent solo feminine journey myths to assist provide the braveness to recover from your fears and go on an epic solo journey

Delusion #1: Solo touring means being lonely usually.

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The scariest matter about touring by your self is the thought that you simply may be alone in your total trip, proper? Who desires to journey to the opposite aspect of the world solely to should be by herself whereas wanting on the majestic pink dawn over Angkor Wat?

I used to be actually apprehensive about this earlier than I began touring solo. Fortunately, I got here to search out that I made extra associates in a single week on the street than I had in an entire 12 months again at dwelling.

The very best matter about touring solo is that you simply’re not the one one doing it. Increasingly girls are contemplating the idea of solo touring to be lifelike today, and I couldn’t consider the way it’s encouraging to see so many different solo feminine vacationers on the market touring by themselves! Because of the facility of social media, you’ll be able to simply be part of on-line communities which can be created particularly for solo feminine vacationers, the place you’ll be able to acquire and provides assist, share your journey plans, and join with different like-minded solo feminine vacationers. I additionally discover that it’s simple to speak to and meet different vacationers – they’re pleasant folks! I hardly ever felt alone throughout my years of touring because of this.

Delusion #2: Solo touring is simply for individuals who are single.

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Earlier than I began touring and assembly folks with all types of various tales and backgrounds, I figured that in case you’re touring by your self, it should be since you don’t have a big different. Individuals who have commitments like a household or companion don’t simply go touring on their very own. It should imply there’s an issue within the relationship or that they’re escaping their commitments, proper?

Mistaken. I got here to be taught that loads of people who find themselves in relationships journey alone, and for all types of causes.

It may simply be that they’ve completely different pursuits, one thing many relationship consultants say is completely wholesome. Possibly their companion can’t get break day from work, or perhaps each events made a acutely aware resolution to do some soul-searching on a solo journey, even only for a portion of the journey, and meet again up once more.

Many solo vacationers are single, however there are numerous extra who’re in relationships too. Simply since you’re not single doesn’t imply you’ll be able to’t have an superior journey by your self.

Delusion #3: You should be terribly courageous to journey by yourself.

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Quite a lot of my associates thought I used to be extremely courageous and impartial as a result of I used to be going to journey alone. The sincere fact is that I used to be extremely scared and overwhelmed with the concept of touring solo till I lastly simply acquired on the aircraft and went. To worry what you don’t know is simply to be human. It’s in our nature.

Regardless of being terrified, I went anyway. Later I laughed at how scared I had been, after I noticed that getting round, assembly new folks, and discovering matters to eat was all method simpler than I had ever thought it might be.

You don’t have to make certain of every little thing and extremely brave to go touring by yourself. These matters might come as a pleasant good thing about touring solo, however they don’t should be stipulations. The toughest half is getting on the aircraft. After that, it’s surprisingly simple to get round language boundaries, work out timetables, and have an journey. A lot of locals converse at the least some English, and Google Maps, translation apps, and cellphone connectivity have all made touring a lot simpler than it was.

Delusion #4: You may’t be an introvert.

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I used to quietly watch the TV in bars or put on my headphones in public locations in order that I wouldn’t have to speak to anybody. I used to really feel fairly paralyzed in a room with somebody with a powerful persona. Mainly, I used to be form of awkward.

However an unbelievable good thing about touring on my own is that it has made me outgoing. Even when you have hassle beginning a dialog, in a hostel frequent room, chances are high actually good that finally somebody will attain out to you and produce you right into a dialog. I recall that within the Philippines, a woman tapped me and requested the place I’m from, and after chatting for some time, we grew to become associates and frolicked all week.

You’ll most likely additionally discover that after just a few instances approaching new folks — which shall be extremely nerve-racking at first — they are going to be a lot extra open than you feared that it will likely be an encouraging shock. It’s really easy to start out a dialog by merely asking any person the place they’re from or the place they only got here from. I do know these are cliché, however additionally they work, and earlier than you realize it, you have got one thing to speak about.

It’s simple to construct up confidence round vacationers — they’re simply actually pleasant folks!

Delusion #5: It’s harmful to journey solo, particularly as a lady.

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You’ve seen the film, Taken, proper? The one the place Liam Neeson’s daughter will get kidnapped in Europe and he kicks main butt and rescues her? Or what about Brokedown Palace, the place Claire Danes will get thrown in Thai jail when a good-looking stranger crops medication on her? That is our picture of women touring the world (thanks, Hollywood!). It’s no surprises that repeatedly, girls are informed that they need to by no means journey solo!

To start with, neither of the protagonists in these motion pictures really was touring solo. Possibly if they’d been, they’d have paused and listened to their voices of cause and stayed out of hassle.

Staying secure on the street is all about trusting your instinct, behaving overseas such as you would at dwelling. Would you get tremendous drunk alone at a bar at dwelling? Would you stroll round alone at evening? Discuss to the locals at your guesthouse about what you must be careful for, and observe frequent sense. What saved you alive at dwelling and retains you alive on the street, too.

For extra take a look at this publish all about solo feminine journey security.

And try these blogs for inspiration and proof girls can journey alone:

On daily basis thousands and thousands of ladies journey the world alone. It’s secure and doable, and also you gained’t find yourself in a ditch!

Delusion #6: You’ll consistently get undesirable consideration.

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It occurred from automotive home windows after I was strolling dwelling from college at age 14, it occurred after I was moving into my automotive at a random fuel station in the course of nowhere in Nevada, and it occurs after I stroll down the streets of New York Metropolis. Generally a boyfriend was only some steps away — it didn’t matter. Catcalls occur overseas and at dwelling. They’re annoying, sure, however don’t allow them to hold you from having the superior solo journey you deserve.

One of the simplest ways to take care of that form of consideration is to ensure you perceive the modesty necessities within the nations that you simply go to and costume accordingly. Some girls recommend carrying a marriage band, however I discover that being very assured, wanting folks within the eye, and being respectfully assertive are all good methods to face my floor as properly.

Whereas merely being a feminine does open you up for catcalls and undesirable advances in some components of the world, in lots of instances, although, it’s fairly the other, and I’m handled with respect and kindness, notably as a result of I’m a lady touring on her personal.

Delusion #7: It’s far more work as a result of it’s important to do every little thing your self.

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If you happen to journey by yourself, you will be making all the selections.

That is additionally the largest good thing about touring solo. It signifies that you don’t should plan forward in case you don’t need to, and have extra serendipitous enjoyable, the novelty of which we’re hardwired to crave. You don’t have to fret about whether or not the opposite individual is having enjoyable or not, or stress about doing every little thing for 2 or extra folks.

In reality, the extra I journey solo, the extra I discover that planning a visit for one is commonly a lot simpler than planning for a gaggle. I get to do solely precisely what I need to do, see locations that others might not be interested by, and actually have a “time off” in my travels with out the guilt!

The advantage of full freedom whereas touring solo completely outweighed the additional legwork that I needed to do. I additionally discovered it simple to only ask a buddy which restaurant or exercise they appreciated, or the individual working on the hostel counter. It’s not that tough.

Delusion #8: Touring solo is a large, life-changing resolution.

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Lots of people dump every little thing they’ve and take off to the opposite aspect of the world with a one-way ticket in hand (I’m speaking about myself right here), however that doesn’t imply that everybody who travels solo has turned her life the other way up as a way to do it.

It may be so simple as a weekend journey alone to a different metropolis, a two-week jaunt to a heat and tropical place you’ve by no means been, or a monthlong solo backpacking journey in Europe between semesters. It doesn’t should be an enormous deal, and you might come proper again to life as you realize it earlier than, with just a few new adventures and a bit extra confidence.

****It turned out that, opposite to what everybody (together with me) thought, solo touring wasn’t harmful, boring, or lonely in any respect. It really was one of the social actions I’ve ever tried.

I ended up discovering that, as an alternative of solo touring being a drawback in any method, it was really advantageous to be free after I traveled. It endeared me extra to locals, and I acquired to have distinctive experiences as a result of I may say sure to every little thing, and that’s one thing that solely solo vacationers can say. It’s a giant profit to have the ability to go the place you need whenever you need, with out having to reply to anybody else. There should be a cause why it retains rising in reputation 12 months after 12 months, proper?

If touring is about the advantages, the time spent in a brand new actuality, and a departure out of your regular, on a regular basis life, then to touring solo is to place these advantages on steroids. Give it a strive, and also you too might discover that your misconceptions about it are all mistaken.

Kristin Addis is a solo feminine journey knowledgeable who evokes girls to journey the world in an genuine and adventurous method. A former funding banker who offered all of her belongings and left California in 2012, Kristin has solo traveled the world for over 4 years, overlaying each continent (aside from Antarctica, nevertheless it’s on her record). There’s virtually nothing she gained’t attempt to virtually nowhere she gained’t discover. You’ll find extra of her musings at Be My Journey Muse or on Instagram and Fb.

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